Monday, 01 June 2009
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Friendship...
Two friends have told me quite recently that they feel that I am the only one who seems to be making an effort toward trying to be friends with them. As far as what I'm getting from them one cares and the other one doesn't seem to...But you can't forget the one who doesn't seem to care because they are such a prominent part of your life posing as best friend, and best friend's best friend. Dropping them seems ultra-cruel, but if it's the right thing to do...how would you know?
Friendship is a two way street, two people must dance the dance, otherwise you have nothing. The close friendships are caused by two people putting lots of effort into the friendship. The not so close friendships often are the people who don't put a lot of effort into a friendship. Bad friendships are caused by one or more people putting little or no effort into the friendship. That's why most people claim that their best friend is the one who is there for them. If you aren't going to put enough effort into a friendship to maintain it then why bother? Why call the person your friend?
I don't call people my 'friends' if I'm not putting in effort toward making them my friend. Same goes if they strongly resist my efforts. I believe it's just common sense to be a friend. If I am your friend then you are going to get it good. I will faithfully call/email/text you depending on which is the most convenient for you. I will be extremely loyal, listening to your side of the story and giving you the benefit of the doubt before judging anything I hear. I will go out of my way to do things you particularly like, giving you a gift I know you will appreciate, spending the day with you on that oh so special weekend, sending you a picture I took I know you will find funny and my personal favorite giving you a sincere compliment. All I ask in return is for you not to backstab me.
Are you interested in starting this journey as my friend?
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Comments (6)
Being friends does take a lot of work. I've found out just how much work it takes since I've been out here at college. It's not easy to keep up shallow frienships when you don't see each other every day, like you used to. I'm honestly not friends at all with most of the people I would have considered "friends" all throughout high school.
BUT, the ones who matter, my dearest friends, the ones who were always there for me... our friendships remains strong. Yes, it does take time and effort to contact them and see what's up in their lives, but it almost feels effortless to me, since our friendship is so strong. But, it took a lot of work to get to that point, lots of time together, good times, and bad times. I've concluded that long distance is the ultimate test of relationship (both friendships and romantic relationships). If you can withstand the test of distance, then you've found a friend for life.
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - Awesome!! I love that little speech you put there!! 'If you can with stand the test of distance, then you've found a friend for life'...
@Mac_Libureet - Thanks... I try to come up with little tidbits of wisdom every once in a while. I like to be profoud. lol
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - I try to be profound especially for my little sister!!! and other friends...
Wow you just made me feel bad about the way I've been treating some people I know...
you are so right
miss you friend! i luved you piggy